Anyone who works in this specialty understands what you are saying. We've heard and said it a thousand times, "It's no necessarily what was said, it was what they heard." This starts at admission to hospice and carries on throughout death. Grief. Impotence. Loss. I can't think of one person with whom I've worked over the years that has not been lambasted by a family member. Whenever I've been in charge of IDT, InterDisciplinary Team, for those of you who aren't familiar, I insist on each discipline talk about those who have died within the 2 prior weeks. 100% of the time they are complimenting each other and patting themselves on their backs. My most important question at that time is, "What could we have done better". I expect a soul searching honest answer because we don't learn from our successes, we learn from our failures, shortcomings, the woulda-coulda-shoulda's. Thank you, Larry. I am now sitting thinking about all of the anger I felt/feel/expressed about my family members' deaths, and the times I've had families come to me with their feelings whatever they might have been.
Anyone who works in this specialty understands what you are saying. We've heard and said it a thousand times, "It's no necessarily what was said, it was what they heard." This starts at admission to hospice and carries on throughout death. Grief. Impotence. Loss. I can't think of one person with whom I've worked over the years that has not been lambasted by a family member. Whenever I've been in charge of IDT, InterDisciplinary Team, for those of you who aren't familiar, I insist on each discipline talk about those who have died within the 2 prior weeks. 100% of the time they are complimenting each other and patting themselves on their backs. My most important question at that time is, "What could we have done better". I expect a soul searching honest answer because we don't learn from our successes, we learn from our failures, shortcomings, the woulda-coulda-shoulda's. Thank you, Larry. I am now sitting thinking about all of the anger I felt/feel/expressed about my family members' deaths, and the times I've had families come to me with their feelings whatever they might have been.